Friday, April 27, 2007


Louisa is now 9 and one half. She'll be 10 in September and I still haven't had the "big talk" with her. I stated previously why. I'm just scared to explain how I, in God's eyes, sinned and she was the result of that sin. This will be so much easier with the boys. Mainly because husband is going to be the one giving the talk. Also, because it's easy to explain how they are a result of mom and dad's love for eachother.
I bought two books that I found online to help me talk with Louisa. She's already getting pimples and of course she needs to know why. And also, I may have gotten my period when I was 12, but other women in my family got theirs when they were 10 or 11. I hope to stay one step ahead of this game.
The books I bought to help me are, Growing Up, It's a Girl Thing: Straight Talk about First Bras, First Periods, and Your Changing Body by Mavis Jukes, and Girl Stuff, A Survival Guide to Growing Up by Margaret Blackstone. The first book is geared toward that younger tween crowd. The illustrations are good and it talks about what I want her to know right now. The second book may have to wait a year or so. The illustrations are a little too graphic for a 9 year old, but more appropriate for an 11 or 12 year old. In my opinion anyway. I may go through a few of the chapters with her in the second book when we're talking about pimples and boys and periods, but she doesn't need to see a complete illustration of a penis right now. She has two little brothers. She definitely knows the difference between a boy and a girl.
Yesterday Louisa saw the books and got very excited about reading them. I'm glad she has such excitement. She knows these books are to help her understand growing up and how her body will change in the next few years. And the covers are very girly and appealing, so she is naturally curious as to what is inside. I'll have to read them both and then decide what she needs to know now, and what can wait for later. Then we can sit down together and read and hopefully I can answer her questions.
For the rest of today and tomorrow, though, I have a little man's 6th birthday party to get ready for. So Louisa growing up will have to wait a few days. Let's hope she doesn't go off and meet the boy of her dreams between now and then! Really, I'm lucky because she's not into boys or crushes or anything like that yet. Although she is quickly becoming a gorgeous young lady, so I will have to worry some day. Just not yet.


Anonymous said...

Peggie, I'm glad that I have a long while before I have to even think about this with the boys. I'm not looking forward to the whole "talk" and I don't know how helpful dh will be.
I remember reading one of the Judy Blume books that had to deal with growing up but I can't remember which one it was. However, it was a great book.

jen said...

I had to have the "chat" with Andrew last year... I was so hoping that he would ask his dad, and not for a couple more years!! We didn't get into details, just the most basic explanations... and that was difficult enough! Best of luck honey! I'm not looking forward to having the talk with Megan!! :)

Amber said...

I am so coming to you in another 7 years when it comes close to that time for Grace! Good luck!

Sandy said...

Ok, well when Meg gets to be of age for "the" talk...I'm so calling you.

Did you check out the American Girl's book on body care and what not? I have no idea what's in it other than one exists. I know, I'm so darn helpful!